Why We Got Married So Young

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This is a question that I have been asked about so many times. It happened a lot more in the beginning of my marriage since I was still in college when I got married, and honestly I still look “too young” to get married today.

If you haven’t read the post or watched the video about how we met, I’ll give you a little backstory here before diving in (or you can watch the video and come back 🙂 ). Huy and I met and started dating when we were 18 and in our first year of college.

Within the first 2 months of dating we knew we wanted to be together forever, but we knew it wasn’t going to be easy. We also knew that coming from two different countries was going to be hard since we had very different cultures.

There was also a lot of uncertainty when thinking about the future due to the fact that Huy is the only son in his family, and his dad is the oldest son in the family, so he has a responsibility to take care of his entire family back home. While this was something that we thought about a lot, I was more than willing to move to Vietnam with Huy after college if that was what he needed to do. I was willing to give up my entire life in the US to be with him.

For a long time we felt like being together forever was going to be impossible because it seemed like there were so many obstacles to overcome.

After being together for 2 and a half years we talked more seriously about getting married. Huy spoke to his family and told them that we were very serious and wanted to get married. His family was actually a big help in overcoming the fears that we had about all of the obstacles involved with getting married. Specifically, his sister was a big help when it came to planning the wedding details for us.

We ended up deciding to get married in Vietnam when Huy was 21 and I was only 20. Even though I felt like that was the right choice, I was so afraid of what other people would think. I cried so much when I told my parents because I was afraid that they would tell me no and that I was too young to be making this decision. Surprisingly, they were happy for us.

Another fear I had was that people were going to see the timeline of how everything happened and make assumptions about us. I know there were people who were curious to know if I was pregnant since we were getting married so young and also so suddenly (we got married 2 months after getting engaged). But obviously that wasn’t the case either. It was just the time that felt right for both of us.

To be honest, I matured at a very young age and so even though I was only 20 when I got married, I felt so much older than that. I’ve always been this way. I act a little crazy and maybe seem childish or immature with my behavior but that’s because I grew up really early and deep down I’m someone who has always felt older than I really am (but in a good way). So when I got married, despite being so young and still in college, it felt like the right time for me.

The first few years were a constant flood of “OMG you’re married?! How old are you? That’s so crazy!!!” It blew people’s minds that I had already gotten married and I think the fact that I looked like I was 16 back then made it even more shocking. I still get people who are surprised to learn I’m married, but I think the shock comes when they ask how long I’ve been married and I say since 2013. But honestly, all the worries I had about people judging me faded away because I was happy with my decision and that’s all that really matters.

It’s been fun going through the transition from being a student to being an adult with Huy by my side the whole time. We’ve supported each other throughout the years and have built a life that we are proud of and are always improving and doing more for the future.

Our philosophy when we got married was that if we both agreed that we would ultimately want to spend the rest of our lives together, then why wait? If I had the chance to go back and have a second chance to make this decision, I would make the same choice in a heartbeat. I’ve loved having him by my side as we both have grown and started to build our life together. I can’t wait to see what’s next for us.

By writing this blog post, I’m not saying that everyone should get married when they are 20 because I know people in their 30s who are still not ready for that kind of commitment. I just wanted to share my experience and hopefully connect with others who can relate.

So anyway, I hope this post explains my situation a bit better. Please comment below and if you’re married, let me know how old you were when you got married and how you knew you were making the right decision. If you’re not married, leave a comment too! I’m open to answering any questions you might have after reading this. I also would love more topic suggestions so leave those below as well.