How Did I Know He Was The One?

They say that when you know, you know.

Huy and I met when we were students at The University of Maine at Farmington. If you haven’t read our story about how we met, check it out here, or if you prefer to watch our video telling the story, click here.

The love story really begins on October 27th, 2010. At that time we weren’t even dating yet but we went out to a movie with a group of friends. Huy had asked me to join, and at one point I heard that he changed his mind and wasn’t going to come with us because he heard that the movie was lame (Paranormal Activity 2). I got this huge urge that I had to make sure that he came to the movies with us. Honestly this was before anything happened between us so I really didn’t understand why I cared so much whether or not he joined us, but there was something in my gut. So, I begged him to change his mind and join us and he finally agreed.

The movie was soooo lame! There were some parts that made you jump like a loud noise suddenly but other than that it wasn’t that great of a movie. Huy and I were sitting next to each other and we started to chit-chat during the movie and laugh at how bad it was. Then, there was a moment that is what you hear in all the love stories. I looked at him and he looked at me at the same time. Our eyes locked, I felt something in my chest and lost my breath. It felt like time had stopped for a moment and then I looked away quickly. The emotion I felt was so strong and I didn’t really understand where it had come from. I hardly knew the guy! What was going on?!

That truly marked the beginning of the rest of my life. Of course, I wasn’t aware of it in that moment, but now it all makes sense. The universe was telling me that he was the one. And that moment was electrifying. I can still feel it even now when I think back on that night. I’m pretty sure that’s as close to “love at first sight” as I’ve ever experienced. Our relationship bloomed quickly. By November 21, 2010, Huy had already confessed that he loved me! He used his calculator and wrote it using different math symbols, “Huy loves you, Audrey”. Then he asked, “how do you like my talking calculator?”

So yes, it was love straight from the beginning, and I’m a huge romantic so I fell for him super fast. But how did I know he was the one? How did I know I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life? This is hard to really answer since love is a complicated thing but…

• I felt safe when I was with him.
• We could stay up all night talking and not run out of things to say.
• Together we made the perfect balance, he’s the logical one and I’m the dreamer.
• We both loved to eat (this is important!!).
• He stayed in the bathroom with me when I was sick (also important!).
• Etc. etc.

This was all happened when we were 18/19 years old. At that time we were in the US and I didn’t know anything about Vietnam. Can you believe that? I didn’t even know phở yet!!! How could I not know my now favorite food!?!? The only thing we knew for sure was that the fact that he was from Vietnam was going to make things a bit more complicated when we wanted to get married and start a family.

That was back then but even today if you ask me to write down exactly how I know he’s the one for me, I still can’t put this into words in a way that really makes sense. I can feel it in my heart that there is a connection. We’ve been together for almost 9 years at this point so it’s kind of like this: we come home from work and we both do our own thing, I’m editing my YouTube videos and he’s researching about mortgages or some other finance topic online. We aren’t talking to each other but we’re together. We’re whole. But if one of us isn’t here, the other one feels empty. The song we chose to be played on our wedding day, “home is wherever I’m with you” still rings true today.

So how did I know he was the one for me? I just knew.