Hi Mama,
Phew, it’s been a busy past few weeks! I’ve been running around to doctor’s appointments, my baby shower, prenatal classes, and celebrating the holidays with family and friends. With a busy schedule and only 6 more weeks until my due date, it’s been a whirlwind. But the holidays are finally behind us and it’s time to make a fresh start as 2020 begins. This typically means making new year’s resolutions for motivation.
Being a Virgo, I absolutely LOVE making goals, new year’s resolutions, and bettering myself not on just an annual basis but a monthly one. However, this year I’ve decided to take a step back and try and take it easy. I know that welcoming my first baby next month is going to give me a lot to learn, and I’m getting to the point where I feel like I really just need to take it easy, which is NOT easy for me. I would love to tell you about all the ways you can help yourself to take it easy during YOUR pregnancy, but I haven’t quite figured it out yet. I’m working on it!
When I got pregnant, a lot of people told me that I should take it easy, rest a lot and take care of myself. That advice sounds wonderful, but unfortunately, I haven’t been very good about taking it. Sure, in the first trimester I took extra naps and slept more due to the sheer exhaustion of was feeling. But once the second trimester hit, I was feeling like my old self again and at times forgot I was even pregnant. I made plans to do all kinds of things (including relaunching this blog, daily uploads on my YouTube channel, and 100 squats per day!). Everything was going great until the third trimester hit. That’s when the struggle became all too real.
Of course I know I need to take it easy, especially as baby girl’s due date approaches. But the other half of me feels like I still have so much to do before she comes. Not only am I still working full time up until 38 weeks, but I’m preparing all things baby related as well as trying to do things in my personal life that I fear I won’t have time for once my bundle of joy arrives. I’ll get a burst of energy for a few hours and go mad trying to do everything, only to become completely drained.
When I go to lie down for a nap, I find it really hard to let myself drift to sleep. I keep feeling like I’m wasting time even though I know that my body needs the rest. I feel so much pressure to always be productive, motivated and successful (which as a Virgo I view as how many things I can cross off of my to-do list in a given day). It feels like the American culture has something to do with it. Women don’t want to fall behind in society so they keep pushing themselves, even when they know they should slow down and take it easy.
My husband Huy is very supportive and tries to help around the house to lessen the load for me, and I totally appreciate that. But I’m so used to doing most of the housework and taking care of him that I almost feel awkward when he does things. I feel like if he’s cooking or cleaning I need to be right there with him helping as I typically would. I’m trying my best to allow myself to take the help and take a nap. But it’s so damn hard.
So despite the fact that I really want to spend time to make a million goals for 2020, I’ve decided that there is really no need for new year’s resolutions since there is only one thing that matters the most to me this year: becoming a mama to my baby girl. I am so looking forward to welcoming our baby girl into this world and really want my focus this year to be on her, but also on myself and keeping myself healthy so I can be there for my baby. I know that there is no such thing as being the “perfect” mom, so I’m not trying to put too much pressure on myself, but I have confidence that I will learn to become the perfect mom for MY baby girl. That is my main focus for 2020.
In the coming weeks I’ll be sharing more posts about the last few weeks of gearing up for our sweet little bundle. I can’t wait to show you the photos from our maternity photo shoot and baby girl’s Fawn themed nursery.
Are you a super motivated mama with tons of goals for 2020? If so, that’s great! Share your new year’s resolutions with me in the comments below! But just know that it’s okay to take it easy this year, especially if you’re welcoming your first baby into the world this year. Also, please tell me in the comments below how you get yourself to take a step back and relax, even when you feel like you just want to keep going on about your “normal” life. I think I need some help from you!
xo
Mother of Fawn
: ) I wanted to read it but fonts you chose is terrible.
Oh no, I will see if I can change it to something bigger and clearer to read. Thanks for the feedback!
I have updated the fonts on my site. Please let me know if it’s easier for you to read 🙂
Yes it is. Can you see the differences? Yike! Tiny writing!
Of course I can see the difference, it is easier to read now. I noticed before but I just hadn’t gotten around to updating it. Anyway, glad you like it better now 🙂
Hi Audrey, is common such a struggle with working moms. But it is important to remember that an overworked mom can’t be her best self to her family. Take time to breath and enjoy yourself. Have you read “Becoming” by Michelle Obama? In her book, among other things, she share her struggles and challenges as a professional mom and wife. It surprised me she even considered be a full time housewife, but she found help to make a little time for herself. A good read if you have the time. Is available on Audible too.
BTW, love your blog.
Hi Daribel! Thanks for taking the time to read this post and leave a comment. I hope I can share a lot more content here on the blog so having your support means the world to me! I will have loads of free time to do some reading once I’m on maternity leave, maybe I’ll check it out on Audible! I’m really struggling with this change in my lifestyle but I know that I have to slow down for the health of the baby. I’m trying. 🙂 Again, thanks for your support!
Thank you for the blog.
Hello Mya! Thanks for stopping by! Would love to hear what kinds of topics you are interested in seeing here on the blog. 🙂