Hi Mama,
As you know, it’s my mission to help moms feel less lonely and more confident as they embark on their journey through motherhood. I want to build a safe space and a community around this blog for all moms, new and seasoned. So I thought, what better way to do that then to actually feature moms and their stories here on the blog!
Everyday Moms is a weekly interview series where I will be sharing experiences from moms all around the world! I hope that this series will allow moms to express themselves and their feelings, and to also help you feel like you’re not alone as you navigate the ups and downs of motherhood.
If you wish to be featured on the blog, click here to submit responses to the Everyday Moms interview questions. I look forward to sharing your story with the world!
Today we will be hearing from Everyday Mom, Thuy, a mother of 3 who has nearly 7 years of motherhood experience under her belt.
Everyday Moms: Thuy’s Story
“Make the effort to find / create a circle of mum friends. It can be so lonely for a first time mum.”
Tell us about your family
Hi, my name is Thuy. I have 3 kids: Rachel 6 (2013), Esther 4 (2015), and Aaron (2019). My hubby is Beshoy, we met and got married (within 8 months) in Egypt. I’m from UK, born in Leeds but living in London since 1996. Both parents are working full time.
When did you become a mom?
7th Nov 2013
What have been your favorite memories/moments from motherhood?
First moments confidently breastfeeding in public (with a cover).
Not giving up on breastfeeding, even when in a lot of pain.
Introducing my parents to their first grandchild.
(Still) seeing the children meet the milestones, from learning to roll over to first day of school.
Giving birth for the 2nd and 3rd time round being mentally prepared for the pain and getting through it.
What has been your biggest struggle as a mom?
Time management for self care. A friend told me not long ago that I always put myself last. Everyone and everything else is catered for first, family, household, work etc. then I run out of time for myself – whether it’s just painting my nails, putting on a face mask or work on my weight loss.
What advice do you have for other moms out there, such as something you wish you knew before you became a mom?
Make the effort to find / create a circle of mum friends. It can be so lonely for a first time mum. I used to wait for hubby to come home only for him to be too tired to talk to me much. Having a solid network in place by baby no. 2, loneliness was no longer an issue!
Be honest with your partner (or whoever you’re comfortable with) about how you’re feeling, however trivial you might feel it to be.
Do not be ashamed to reach out for help, whether it’s hemorrhoids or babysitting… The doctor, your mum, your aunt, your friend – they’ve heard it all before!
Anything else you wish to share about your motherhood experience?
Don’t be sucked into the ideal, the expectation of what being a mum is supposed to be, or what baby is supposed to do etc. So long as a medical professional deems it’s OK, then you have nothing to be worried about with baby – they all will reach their milestones in the end. That said, don’t be shy to drop your doctor a call if you have any concerns about baby! Other than than enjoy! It won’t be long before they’re grown up and giving you sass! But you’ll still love them so so much!
I hope that reading Thuy’s experiences as a seasoned mom taught you something new. I know I’m also guilty of not taking the time to care for myself, so hearing Thuy’s story gave me a gentle reminder to take some time out for myself a little more often.
I’ll be sharing more stories each week as I receive them so be sure to subscribe to the email list on the left-hand side of the page if you want to be notified of new posts. You can also follow me on Instagram where I share my motherhood journey every day. I absolutely love connecting with moms through IG so feel free to leave a comment here or send me a DM if you have questions or just want to chat and become friends!
Thanks for reading! xxx
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xo
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