Hi Mama,
Sometimes love doesn’t always work out. It’s hard to face heartbreak, but even harder when you have kids. Becoming a single mom while pregnant makes things even more difficult. Today Lina found the courage to share her story on the blog. I hope you will leave a positive message of encouragement for Lina in the comments after reading her story.
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Lina’s Story: Becoming A Single Mom While Pregnant
Everything became so clear and I knew I had one purpose and that was to do whatever it is to love and protect my baby with everything that I am.
Please tell us about yourself and your unique motherhood story.
While I am not sure where to start, part of me want to just want to let it out but part of me is still so hesitant to open up since it is still pretty fresh. I will just briefly scratch the surface of my story.
Hi. My name is Lina and I’m a Vietnamese American girl. I fell in love with a traditional Vietnamese guy in Vietnam (the MOST traditional one yet). It was a love story that quickly turned sour before it had barely begun. I’m not going to go into details about our relationship. But Anyways, I found out I was pregnant.
During this time things were already starting to turn south. there was a lot of arguments. The term abortion was used a lot out of anger countless times. Each time I said it, it truly breaks my heart. Throughout my pregnancy, I had many accidents and was in and out of the hospital many times. Hospitals would misdiagnosed me and wanted me to have surgery while I was pregnant. At this point, I knew that If something were to happen to me in Vietnam, I wouldn’t have anyone.
I had reached my lowest point. My funds were getting low. and going back to America was a difficult decision. With the little money I had, I thought that if I went back that my situation would probably be much worse. Weeks and then months passed, and before I knew it, the baby was ready to come.
I gave birth to my baby in Vietnam (horrific hospital experience btw). After I met my baby boy for the first time, everything had changed. Everything became so clear and I knew I had one purpose and that was to do whatever it is to love and protect my baby with everything that I am. Every time I looked at him I felt as if he was literally my heart that had left my body, that he was literally the beat of my heart.
As soon as I left the hospital, I began to gather all his paperwork (another horrible experience with paperwork in Vietnam) got him US citizenship and a passport and with the help of the US embassy (they had helped me with plane ticket expenses) and a month later I was on my flight back to the states.
When did you become a mom?
10/01/2019
What have been your favorite memories/moments from motherhood?
My favorite moments are every little milestone he surpass. It brings me so much joy. Nothing in this world brings me more joy than that.
What has been your biggest struggle as a mom?
It’s ONLY me so there are no breaks. There are times I would hold the baby while eating. Or after work sometimes I would be so hungry but I couldn’t have dinner until the middle of the night when he’s fed and put to bed.
What advice do you have for other moms out there, such as something you wish you knew before you became a mom?
You are your baby’s world. There will be a day where you will change your baby’s diaper for the very last time, put your baby to sleep for the very last time, etc., so cherish every moment. AND never doubt yourself. But give yourself more credit. Cause you are exactly what your baby needs.
Anything else you wish to share about your motherhood experience?
Take care of yourself as well. Self care is so important.
Thank you to Lina for sharing your story. I know that it isn’t easy to open up when you have gone through so much hardship but I’m positive that your story will inspire other moms out there. I know that your baby is lucky to have you as his mommy!
Are you a single mom? I’m not a single mom but as soon as my baby was born I immediately gave praise to ALL the single moms out there because motherhood is already hard enough when you have a supportive partner. You are the strongest moms out there!
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Thanks for reading! xxx
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